Although it can be nerve-wracking but when you have to meet new people like your teammates, you actually have to approach them. If you don't approach them, then you won't get to know them nor will you be friends with them (unless they approach you first). When you're first meeting someone you can be crazy nervous. Thoughts and different questions can all be racing through your head. Like do they like me? Do they totally hate me? And unfortunately sometimes it can be awkward, but if you follow Hibah's Guide for Introverts: Getting to Know your Teammates (coming to a bookstore near you!) you should be the new social butterfly and hopefully have made some new friends in your next painful school project! Step 1: The First Impression Your first impression is the only chance you get to wow your teammates. The first impression that they get from you is how they judge you which leads to them treating you a certain way from that time on. It’s the defining point of your whole relationship and you need it to be perfect and casual yet professional since they are team member. I recommend approaching them and shaking their hand. The handshake has to be firm and has to last long enough to give off a confident and totally chill vibe, if it gets too long you’ve blown your chance. That’s creepy and the chances of that person EVER liking you is now gone. Don’t be creepy but be confident, while shaking their hand look into their eyes. It gives off the vibe that you aren’t afraid of them and that you’re a natural born leader. Here’s an example of what not to do. They aren’t looking at each other and one of them looks disgusted (it was the last period of the day i'm sorry). Step 2: Making Light Conversation If you have made it far enough to step 2 congratulations (most people don’t)!! Make light comfortable conversation. It’ll be awkward at first but eventually you’ll find something that’ll melt all the awkward tension away. Talk about tv shows, hobbies, favorite food, and favorite places that they have traveled to. Ask the questions in a non interrogative way otherwise that’s just weird and you’ve blown your shot. Be casual smile and often answer your questions before they do so they don’t feel uncomfortable. Also, be casual and don’t be clingy. No one likes a clingy and annoying person. The goal is to find a common interest and the conversation will just go from there. Step 3: Exchange each other’s contact information As a group member and as a teenager it is absolutely VITAL that you get their phone number. I’ve had friends that I didn’t really get along with from the start but then we started texting and now we’re besties! Contact info is also really important in group projects because you need to collaborate over projects and talk to each other regarding due dates. I know that sometimes my group members forget to do their assignments and I send them a gentle reminder for them to get it done.
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10/24/2016 02:16:05 pm
I think this is a good post except for you didn't include an introduction and the language you are using is not at all professional. -Paloma Wood-Assemian
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Naomi Bernal
10/31/2016 02:34:59 pm
I like your blog post because it has a lot of important and useful informations that people can use to learn.
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